Malathi Erudition

Every day, I ask her “Do you remember me”? She just smiles, trying hard to recall, answers each day differently. Says I am her daughter, her sister, her mother, her sister-in-law… I wondered whom does she remember? Her parents? Her brothers? Her children? Her Grandchildren? When a picture of her life partner strikes for a second, she asks where he had gone. I wondered what does she remember? Her childhood? Her wifehood? Her motherhood? When she is stuck somewhere deep inside, how can she remember. I wondered does she have complaints? Does she have regrets? Does she feel angry? When there is a big hole in her memories, how can she carry all these. I wondered did she lose her kindness, love, care? When I stand in front of her, she asks me to sit beside her. When I offer her to eat, she asks whether I have eaten. When I wave her “bye”, she replies “your wish”. When I ask her if she needs something, she replies “nothing”. She makes jokes, laughs innocently, blesses me abundantly. Just like

Once in a while, validate your parenting with these tips. Check whether your child is behaving more self-centered like only I want, my things, for myself,  (egocentric) or sharing with others, caring for others, wishing to mingle with others (sociocentric).  Check whether your child wishes to spend time with others like friends, cousins, grand parents etc. or sticking to only parents. Check whether your child says thank you for every help that she/he receives and doesn't hesitate to say sorry when she/he commits some mistake. Check whether your child is ready, willing to help others in need (may be her parents, siblings, friends, outsiders) or just looking silently at those who are in need of help.  Check whether your child is wishing the guests who come home and offering them something to have, or just ignoring the guests. Check whether your child is showing patience to listen to old people or getting frustrated to listen/speak to them.     

  Did you feel that being resilient is very difficult? Not at all. Attempt, Start, Try. If I could, so could you all. It is very easy and once you experience the result of it, no one can stop you. 1. Being resilient makes you more liberated, happy and peaceful. 2. Being resilient to convert our adversities into strengths enhances our academic performance and success. 3. Being resilient makes us use positive emotions to rebound from stressful encounters and the maintenance of positive emotions during adversity provides mental and physical health benefits also. 

  Ask wisely, get what you want and reach your goal. Ram and Meena are friends. Ram has some attractive and exclusive color pencils, and papers with him. If Meena asks Ram for pencils and papers, he can give some of them to her but if she asks for a painting or a drawing, how can he? She must wisely ask for what Ram is having and utilize them to make a painting of her choice. You may ask me, why can’t Ram prepare a painting with what he has and give it to Meena. Yes, he can, but it may not be the same one as she wished to have . Most of you ask God for things like money, house, car, dream job, business profits, marks/grades, good result, seat in a college, to go to other countries etc. I don’t think he has all that with him. Did you ever try asking Lord Krishna to give you a little of his compassion and love, Lord Hanuman to give you a little of his courage and braveness, Lord Ganesha to give you a little of his intellect and wisdom, Lord Shiva to give you a little of his self-disc

What is the secret of achieving more? The power of GIVING Practice giving first. When you don't give to others how can nature make it to provide you.   Most of us struggle financially or personally or professionally. Do you know the reason? It is due to lack of giving and receiving. They are neither good teachers (givers) nor good students (receivers).  Whenever you feel short or in need of something, give what you want first and it will come back in buckets. That’s true for money, a smile, love, or friendship.  Your world is only a mirror of you.  The more we give the more we receive. That is the principle of reciprocity-  I give what I want. The famous author Robert says - Teach and you shall receive. If you want to learn something then by teaching it you will learn well. If you want to sell something, help someone sell something then sales comes to you. There are powers in nature that are smarter than we are. We can get to our destination (be it success or money or happiness) on

Which one is better: “Knowing a lot about a little” or “knowing a little about alot” Most of us are always aimed at “knowing a lot about a little”. That is doing specialization - Masters and Doctorates. This gets us a high paying job. But very less focus on “Knowing a little about a lot”. I shall explain this with an example: If Meenakshi wishes to crack UPSC exam, just reading day and night and working hard, may or may not give her good result even though she had sufficient knowledge on her subjects. Then how can she? The most appropriate meaning of “Learning” is the modification of our behaviour. How can we modify our behaviour? With the knowledge gained from the information retrieved through education. According to Swami Vivekananda, education was not only the collection of information, but something more meaningful, i.e., man-making, life-giving and character-building. Could we get such an education through our education system? Absolutely not. For that, “Knowing a litt

  We have got a lot of emotions in us.  We are not saints or sages not to have them right? Even if we are at the age of 25 or 45 or 65, we have got the remainder of life to make it pleasant. We all know that it is very difficult, rather not possible to change the attitude of others unless they wish to, but we can change our own attitude towards them by overcoming our emotions. Is this small logic not sufficient to make ourselves super pleasant and peaceful? It becomes our own responsibility to make the remainder of our life beautiful. Yeah, taking a few steps, we can absolutely fill our normal life with pleasantness and thus peacefulness.  It is very important for us to identify what emotions we are dominated with. It may be from the list of positive emotions that give pleasure while experiencing love, joy, satisfaction, interest, contentment, gratitude etc.? Or it may be from the list of negative emotions that give unpleasant feelings while experiencing fear, hatred, anger, resentment

#malathierudition #Happiness has a lot of significance in our lives. We focus most of our life doing VERY BIG THINGS like setting up a business, getting a good job, earning lots of money, building a multi-storey house, achieving dreams/lifegoals etc. to accomplish such happiness . That’s really great but realizing that with VERY SMALL ACTIVITIES also we can achieve cent percent happiness is worth living our life to the fullest. We can define our own happiness. It's definition is different for each of us.  Right from morning till we go to sleep there are many things that can make us happy.  Waking our kids up with a sweet smile, greeting them a happy morning.  Embracing them after they return from school or after we return from work. Having a leisure dinner with family.  On Sunday, watching a movie on OTT or playing a game with our family.  Visiting a temple once in a while, sitting there for sometime peacefully with our family.  Talking on the phone with our parents at least for

#malathierudition 💜 My great parents thought to provide me with what they lacked. They provided me with a good education, as they thought that the qualification would make my life happy. Now what should I do to be a great parent to my kids? Is it just the good education, a qualification as my parents thought? No. There is something that I lacked and I have to make sure it exists in my daughters lives.            That is financial intelligence. Not just college education but financial education which is not in the curriculum of our education system is to be taught to our kids for shaping their lives to be happy. I will make sure. Will you? ❤️ More about this in future posts

#malathierudition  💜For some decades, most parents did not differentiate their daughters from their sons when it comes to education. We always have seen many talks about such great parents like mine. With respect to career, mostly sons satisfy the parents but daughters struggle. Why?       Only some intelligent girls immediately after their studies put efforts to achieve their dream jobs and share its fruits with their parents before marriage. Some may miss that wonderful experience because of many reasons but mostly being innocent. Whatsoever every girl has to go through marriage and have kids. At some point they put their careers on hold to take care of their children. First child, then break, then work, again second child, then break, then work. Only highly focused women get back and strive to continue. Others stay back being great home makers.      After all this, if they wish to pursue higher studies, then they have to choose between their education and job. They have to choose o